Hello, I’m Angie and I’m at the eco midwife on Instagram and Facebook. I’ve been in NHS, practicing midwife for the last 10 years and also a health visitor. And here are some of my top tips to help you prepare in pregnancy for the postnatal period.
So as a common question, I get asked as a midwife is what do we do about visitors in the postnatal period? And this is a conversation that you want to have in your pregnancy with your partner, but also your support network.
The last thing anyone wants is on day one, when you’ve just come home with your newborn baby is for all your visitors, your aunts, your uncles, to just turn up. And actually by having that conversation about what you want in the pregnancy, you can then give them all the information that you need to those aunts, those uncles, the friends, the family, so that they’re aware of what you want postnatally.
Some people will want visitors very early on. Some people might only want immediate family early on. Others will want to space it out and have a baby moon, but it’s dependent on your individual circumstances. What you personally feel is right for you as a family, and also what is right for your partner as well.
It may also depend on the type of birth that you have, depending on what sort of supports you may or may not need. But it’s really important that with visitors as well, you set the guidance ahead of time for them so that they don’t overstay their welcome. And so that if you start feeling really tired, really sort of steered, you can go back to bed and you can say, I’m really sorry, but I am absolutely shattered. It’s time for me to say goodbye to you. We’ll arrange another visit in the future and take it from there.