I always knew I wanted to be a mum, so when I met my wife, I was so happy she felt the same. Back then, there was little to no support or information for LGBT+ people who wanted to conceive or start a family – it was incredibly disparate or out of date.
We decided that we would both like to carry a child if we could, so we went for fertility treatment through a private clinic, CRGH. As my wife was older and had PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome), she underwent IUI (intrauterine insemination) first, as it was less costly and invasive. It took us three failed cycles and one miscarriage before she fell pregnant on the fifth attempt.A few years later, we decided to try for a sibling, and I fell pregnant on the second IUI attempt.
When we decided to have a third child, with me carrying again several years later, we mistakenly assumed because I had fallen pregnant so quickly before, it would happen again. However, after three failed IUIs, we discovered that my ovarian reserve had diminished by half. Devastated, we decided to try IVF, due to my age, declining fertility and the fact we only had two vials of sperm left, which we had obtained through American sperm bank XYTEX.
Unfortunately, this procedure was initially cancelled when the Coronavirus pandemic hit, and when the clinics re-opened, our first round of IFV failed. However, after this, we luckily fell pregnant again with a frozen IVF transfer.
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