Pregnancy affects the physical appearance of our postnatal bodies in many different ways, including stretch marks, abdominal muscle separation and pregnancy weight gain. While the changes are all a normal part of growing a baby, they can leave you feeling like your body is no longer your own. There is also the added pressure of feeling like you should ‘bounce back’ as quickly as celebrities on social media or – closer to home – your new mum friend down the road.

Try to remember that your recovery journey is a very personal and unique experience and while it can be easy to compare yourself to others on the same journey, try to avoid this. Just think about all the different factors that influence your recovery e.g. size of your baby, position of your baby in the womb, the amount of weight gained in pregnancy, how well your baby does or doesn’t sleep, how much help you have at home, the number of children you have, the natural elasticity of the skin – this is down to genetics and not the cream you did or didn’t have time to rub on your expanding bump.

Only 1/4 Women have lost their pregnancy weight by six month postpartum

It is advisable to lose the weight gained in pregnancy to support your own health and to enter subsequent pregnancies at a healthy weight for your body. Research has also identified that being unable to lose the pregnancy weight can have a negative impact on maternal well being, leading to low body satisfaction and self esteem and in some cases increased depressive symptoms.

However, losing the weight gained in pregnancy needs to happen in the right way, which isn’t as quickly as possible. This isn’t always what is best for your body or the baby that you are now caring for. According to a UK study by Hollis et al. in 2017, 73% of women weighed more than their pre-pregnancy weight at six months postpartum. So in other words, just 1 in 4 women had lost their pregnancy weight by six months postpartum. If you are struggling, you are most definitely not alone and understanding the factors working against you in this phase of life can hopefully help you to be a little kinder to yourself.

Lack of sleep and food choices

Research shows that reduced sleep duration, which all new mums experience, has an impact on our food choices and dietary habits. You crave certain foods when tired, particularly of the sugary kind. With all stages of life, we are aiming for balance within our diets so if you do fancy the less healthy snack options, don’t restrict yourself completely – just think about the size and frequency and try to swap some less healthier snacks for more healthier options.


The act itself can have an impact on your food choices and dietary habits because you can’t necessarily prepare the food you’d like to eat, at the time you’d like to eat it. Breastfeeding requires extra calories (around 500kcal/day) so you will need to eat more to support your body to make the breast milk. Hence why trying to lose weight in the early postnatal phase shouldn’t be the priority. Eating a healthy and balanced diet (as much as is possible) ensures your breast milk contains the right nutrient profile to pass on to your baby and you have the right amount of energy to get through the day (and night).

Feeling stressed

In times of stress, including life with a newborn and/or raising a family, your body produces cortisol, a hormone that encourages weight gain and affects your dietary choices. You’ve guessed it, your body wants sugary, higher fat and salty snacks at this time.

Getting back to exercise

It can be incredibly difficult to find the time to exercise with a baby and/or young children. If you do find the time, remember that your return to exercise needs to be respectful of your body with a focus on rebuilding your core before returning to more strenuous exercise, however frustrating that is for some. Before picking up the pace, see a women’s health physio so that they can assess your pelvic floor and core function and suggest activities that are suitable for your phase of recovery.

Look after your mental and physical health

Remember that your recovery journey is a very personal one and comparisons should be avoided as much as possible. If you are concerned about losing the pregnancy weight, try and be kind to yourself and remember that timeframes will be different for everyone. Also try to create time for yourself when you can – your mental health is just as important as your physical health.