I am an integrative therapist which means I use a variety of modalities and tools which I tailor to the individual needs of the client.
Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy was created by Dr Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love you want: A guide for couples (1988). Imago is the Latin word for image. Our adult relationships have a tendency to reflect the image of love we have from childhood, and as such there tends to be a connection between the frustrations experienced in adult relationships and our early childhood experiences. For example: if you felt frequently criticised as a child most likely you will be sensitive to criticism in relationship. If you felt controlled, abandoned, shamed, minimised, etc., these feelings will show up in long term committed relationships.
We tend to have a few ‘core issues’ which keep coming up. This can leave us feeling alone and questioning if we have chosen the right partner. Once we can recognise the pattern or wounding, and our adapted strategies for coping, we can start to move to a more conscious relationship.
In Imago, through the “Imago Dialogue”, we move from reactivity and blame to validation and empathy which allows us to have deeper connection and safety in a relationship.